It's natural for him to want to love the child and be a part of his life. The husband will usually also struggle with conflicted, guilt feelings. She will wonder what is going on between the husband and the other woman every time she isn't there to see what is happening. Usually, the wife will have serious trust issues every time the husband goes to spend time with the child. However, I have to tell you that I very rarely see this work out successfully. It's often very painful for the wife to have to interact with the child and the other woman. He can do whatever he needs to do but he will have to keep that separate from us.' This is understandable. This baby is not mine and I do not want for this to effect my family. I will often hear things like 'I know that this is his child and he must be responsible for it. Saving The Marriage After A Baby Is Conceived During The Affair Almost Always Involves Including The Wife In The Healthiest Way Possible: It's not uncommon for wives to tell me that they very much want to keep the husband's baby with the other woman separate from their family. And the wife will often very much resent the husband's part in this and how his decisions have put them in this situation. There is also usually some resentment about the financial responsibilities that the family will now have to address. The wife will often very much want to do the right thing, but there is a lot of resentment because she usually suspects that the other woman got pregnant on purpose or is using the baby to stay in the picture. I've also seen couples struggle greatly with this issue as they try to come up with a scenario that works best for and is bearable to everyone.

However, most people need outside help in order to be able to continuously do this in a healthy way. I've even seen couples who end up raising the child as their own. However, I've seen couples who have been able to get help dealing with this and who have been able to turn the situation into a somewhat positive outcome.

The baby can be a constant reminder of what happened and the wife will often feel very guilty of the resentful feelings that she can't seem to help. However, it's easy to say all of this but it's very difficult to put this into practice. It's not fair for him to feel the resentment and negative feelings that surround this issue. The innocent child can not control the way in which he was conceived. It's Often Necessary To Put The Child First When A Baby Is The Result Of An Affair: This seems to be a pretty straight forward concept. I will discuss this more in the following article. Many of them have similar characteristics and take similar actions. I have seen a few instances where couples have been able to save their relationship and remain married in this situation. But, having a constant reminder and a reason for the couple to have to interact with the other woman on a regular basis makes things even more difficult. Getting over an affair and saving your marriage is difficult enough. Still, this is a very difficult situation. Finally, I have even had women tell me that they feel compassion and some responsibility for the innocent child involved who now needs for everyone to act in a healthy and responsible way. Other times, the husband is begging for forgiveness and swearing that the two of them can make it work if they just get help. Sometimes, the wife has children of her own with this man and doesn't want for her children to lose their on site father because of one bad decision. Although most people would probably assume that a husband's conceiving a baby with someone else means the end of the marriage, this is not always the case. I actually hear this question on a relatively regular basis.

Man covers usher there goes my baby